Here is a simple outline from a recent sermon on the five ingredients we must have if our homes are to be strengthened and long lasting. There are many that can be added, but these are the ones I have chosen for this post.
Block One – Character First
Character regarding our vows
At most weddings the couple takes a vow before God and witnesses that they will stay together as husband and wife till death does them part. This does not mean till the death of lust, the death of happiness, death of love, or death of finances, but till physical death of one of the other partners.
Character regarding our union
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. (Mat 19:6)
Once made “one”, it cannot be separated into its original pieces without irreparable harm done to both parts.
Character regarding our purpose
For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. (Mal 2:16)
If, as a Christian, our purpose is to please the Lord, we will not easily decide to do what the Lord says He hates.
Block Two – Common Faith
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (1Pe 3:7)
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? (2Co 6:14)
We must have the same mind, same spirit, and same Lord.
Block Three – Christ Focus
As a family we must we focus together on Christ’s will – Submit to it
As a family we must we focus together on Christ’s Word – Obey it
As a family we must we focus together on Christ’s work – Join it
Block Four – Continual Forgiveness
Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil. (Eph 4:26-27)
People are fallible and we all need to be quick to forgive and slow to anger.
Block Five – Church Family
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, (Tit 2:3-4)
We need the example and instruction of older married couples. They show the way. They can teach husbands and wives to perform their duties and make their Christian homes strong and lasting.
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Pastor Rick Owens of Victory Baptist Church in Fresno, Ca. spoke to our men at a Pizza and Leadership meeting about the importance and practice of conducting family worship. Here are a few outtakes of his message with my own additions and thoughts
And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. (Deu 6:6-7)
Family Worship Needs to be Scheduled
I am more and more aware that inconsistent is non-existent. Consistency is at least as important as frequency and content. Set the times and schedule them. Twice a week? Four times a week? Determine how often works. What gets scheduled gets done.
Set the days and times. Once faithful with the schedule, you will probably want to increase the periodicity, but first things first.
Family Worship Needs to be Serious
It can and should be fun, but the importance and the personal impact of the family worship time should always be sensed and impressed. Teach your family you are meeting with God and as a family, worshiping Him.
Family Worship Should be Simple
A 45 minute church-like service is not necessary, nor probably the best approach. Here is one approach to a simple but effective family worship time. Find what works for you. Here is a sample given by Pastor Owens;
- Open in brief prayer
- Sing a song – Varied according to age appropriateness
- Short Bible reading or study. – Take a verse or passage, read it, discuss it, apply it. Get some interaction from the children.
- Take and ask questions – You will surprised after a while the depth of the questions.
- Sing another song
- Each member pray for a missionary and / or a church family
Mix and match ideas according to ages, like, and what works. Add or subtract. Mix it up a little if you like, but just do it.
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I am not discussing the side of legalism that teaches us to do good works to obtain salvation, but rather the spirit that says, I am a better person because my works are better than yours. In particular, we see their works are evil and ours are good.
The essence of the legalism is pride.
A preacher related the story to me that while preaching revival services a lady came up to him after a service and was commenting on how much she had grown in humility, He said to her, “I imagine you are proud of that fact.” “I sure am” was her reply.
Pride is the seed of legalism. It is the old nature’s desire to feel we are better that others.
God condemns such pride. In the passage Luke 6:1-11, Jesus makes a point to try to confront legalism in the hearts of the Pharisees and stir a revival of grace and mercy.
Here are some traits of a legalistic heart.
Critical – always looking for the cracks and faults in others. (Luke 6:2-3, 7-8)
Condescending – always looking down upon others
The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican. (Luk 18:11)
In John 8 we have the story of the woman taken in the very act of adultery. How fast the men were to condemn and judge rather that seek repentance and restoration.
Calloused (Luke 6:6-9)
We are hardened to the results of sins in others. Instead of being broken for the effects of sin, are puffed up about ourselves in that we have not (yet) committed this level of sin.
And ye are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he that hath done this deed might be taken away from among you. (1Co 5:2)
Let’s regularly do a heart check, seeking for the seeds and signs of legalism in our lives and spirit.
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