Child Rearing and Where to Start

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Then Manoah intreated the LORD, and said, O my Lord, let the man of God which thou didst send come again unto us, and teach us what we shall do unto the child that shall be born.(Jdg 13:8)
And Manoah said, Now let thy words come to pass. How shall we order the child, and how shall we do unto him?(Jdg 13:12)

When the coming birth of Samson was announced, Manoah took the right position.  A position that every parent needs to take.  In summary he cried, “HELP! I do not know what to do!”

It has been said that about the time we get the basics of child reading down, it time to play with our grandchildren.  How true!

Every parent needs to start by admitting we do not know what we are doing and that we need God’s help if we are going to be successful is raising our children for His glory.

Look diligently into God’s Word to find His instructions on raising the children He has entrusted to us.

The making of a child.teach us what we shall do unto the child

The word “shall do” means to make, appoint, and fashion.  We need to find God’s plan and we must work on fashioning the child into the young man or woman God desires.  Have a goal. Find God’s vision and work toward that vision.


The disciplining of a child.  – How shall we order the child

The word “order” means to pass a verdict upon or a judgement.  In other words, Manoah was asking God how to disciple the child.  In this world of liberal theology and lifestyles, we are bombarded with a plethora of child raising methods and philosophies.  If we are wise, we will seek out God’s methods and follow. He has made us and knows what we (and our children) need to prosper.

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Resisting the Subverting of Marriage


Marriage is honourable in all,… (Heb 13:4)

I approach this post carefully and with a little trepidation.  I ask that none take offence as I try to help our homes and teach an upcoming generation God’s Word and His principles.

Carol and I have been married for over 42 years.  I say that to the glory of God. I am the first to say it is only by His grace and the patience and love of my godly wife that we have enjoyed so many happy years together.

Although the attack on marriage and home is nothing new, the intensity and effectiveness of the attacks is.  The challenge for the church and for Christians is to do our part to resist the subverting of marriage and the home.

Although we need to speak up and contend for the traditional marriage and home, we must do so in a Christ like manner.  We must base all our opinions on the Word of God. After all, it is not what you and I believe or think, but what God has dictated.

 Let us resist;

Same gender marriages – Same sex unions

Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination. (Lev 18:22)

Certainly this is the key battle of our day. As old fashioned as the concept is, marriage is only between a man and a woman. It is still the only type marriage God recognizes.

The old quip says, “God’s first wedding was Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve”.

We must love and seek to win the gay crowd to the Lord.  You can read more of what God says about this choice of lifestyle in Romans 1:24-32.

 “Shacking up” marriages – Co-habitating couples

People often smile when I use the expression. This is an old fashioned term used to describe an old fashioned sin.  Again, this is not a new wrinkle in the marriage landscape.  Jesus addressed it in John Ch 4 with the woman at the well.

The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband: For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly. (Joh 4:17-18)

 Serial marriages – marry, divorce, remarry, divorce, repeat 

And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: … (Mal 2:15-16)

Divorce and remarriage is by far the most common of ails that affects the traditional home these past few generations. Let’s all purpose and pray that our marriages will stay strong and last forever.  God’s plan is still for one man, with one woman, forever (aside from remarriage after the death of one’s spouse).

And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. (1Co 7:10-11)

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