How to Deal with Disappointments

Then Davidisappointed-1024x683d the king stood up upon his feet, and said, Hear me, my brethren, and my people: As for me, I had in mine heart to build an house of rest for the ark of the covenant of the LORD, and for the footstool of our God, and had made ready for the building: But God said unto me, Thou shalt not build an house for my name, because thou hast been a man of war, and hast shed blood. (1Ch 28:2-3)

David was Disappointed in his Desire to Build a Temple for God.

David’s desire emanated from a good and godly heart.  It was a desire for God to get glory through this house.  But in spite of it being a good desire, God told David no.

How we respond to the great disappoints that God permits in our lives determines if it will make us bitter or better, stronger or weaker, confident or cracked.  Let’s look at David’s heart for some guidance on how to stay right, even when our dreams are dashed.

Do not let your Affection for God be Dampened

Wherefore thou art great, O LORD God: for there is none like thee, neither is there any God beside thee, according to all that we have heard with our ears.(2Sa 7:22) 

Too many times we let disappoints and perceived disasters in our lives quench our love for God. David, however, knew God’s goodness, greatness, and care for him was in no way altered by God’s refusal of David’s proposed plan.

Let your Appreciation to God be Deepened (1Ch 28:4-5)

Howbeit the LORD God of Israel chose me before all the house of my father to be king over Israel for ever: for he hath chosen Judah to be the ruler; and of the house of Judah, the house of my father; and among the sons of my father he liked me to make me king over all Israel: And of all my sons, (for the LORD hath given me many sons,) he hath chosen Solomon my son to sit upon the throne of the kingdom of the LORD over Israel. (1Ch 28:4-5)


Recognize, consider, and thank the Lord for His many blessings and the things He HAS given us and allowed us to fulfill in our lives.  In David’s response, he rejoiced and considered that God had allowed him to be king and God had given him many sons.  Always remember, God is good, all the time.

Do not let your Activity for God be Diminished (1Ch 29:2-3)

Now I have prepared with all my might for the house of my God the gold for things to be made of gold, and the silver for things of silver, and the brass for things of brass, the iron for things of iron, and wood for things of wood; onyx stones, and stones to be set, glistering stones, and of divers colours, and all manner of precious stones, and marble stones in abundance. (1Ch 29:2)

Although God was not permitting him to build the house, it did not diminish David’s anticipation or love for the work.  If he could not build it, he would help build it by planning and provided the means for its building.

When God says no, let us not quit our service or work for the Lord.

  Do not let your Awe of God Decay 

Then went king David in, and sat before the LORD, and he said, Who am I, O Lord GOD? and what is my house, that thou hast brought me hitherto? And this was yet a small thing in thy sight, O Lord GOD; but thou hast spoken also of thy servant’s house for a great while to come. And is this the manner of man, O Lord GOD? (2Sa 7:18-19)

He kept his reverence for God (2Sa 7:18)

He kept his rest in the Providence of God  (2Sa 7:19) 

Let God be God and make sure our hearts remain soft, pliable, and right with God when disappointments come into our lives.

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